1、卓杜立TED演講：一支(y zh)棒棒糖改變一個人How many of you are completely comfortable with calling yourselves a leader? See, Ive asked that question all the way across the country, and everywhere I ask it, no matter where, theres always a huge portion of the audience that wont put up their hand. And Ive come to reali

2、ze that we have made leadership into something bigger than us. Weve made into something beyond us. Weve made it about changing the world. And weve taken this title of leader, and we treat it as if its something that one day were going to deserve, but to give it to ourselves right now means a level o

3、f arrogance or cockiness that were not comfortable with.今天在場的觀眾(gunzhng)之中有多少人覺得自己可以被稱為領導的?我在全國各地都問過這個問題無論在哪都有很多人不愿舉手。我意識到，領導力被我們塑造成了一種高于生活普通人難以企及的東西。我們認為有領導力的人應該改變世界。我們認為我們只有在未來的某一天才配得上領導這個頭銜。現(xiàn)在就自稱領導則是一種我們自己難以接受的傲慢和自滿。And I worry sometimes that we spend so much time celebrating amazing things that

4、hardly anybody can do that weve convinced ourselves that those are the only things worth celebrating, and we start to devalue the things that we can do every day, and we start to take moments where we truly are a leader and we dont let ourselves take credit for it, and we dont let ourselves feel goo

5、d about it. And Ive been lucky enough over the last 10 years to work with some amazing people who have helped me redefine leadership in a way that I think has made me happier. And with my short time today, I just want to share with you the one story that is probably most responsible for that redefin

6、ition.我擔心，我們花了太多時間去贊美那些不是人人都能做到的事情。我們認為只有那些事情才值得贊美，我們貶低了那些我們可以做到的事情的價值，在生活中即便成為了領導也不敢承認，不給自己因此自我感覺良好的機會。我非常幸運在過去的十年中有幸和一些了不起的人共事，他們幫助我重新認識了領導力讓我更加(gnji)快樂。今天我將利用這短短的幾分鐘，與你們分享一個故事，就是這樣的故事轉變了我的觀念。I went to school in a little school called Mount Allison University in Sackville, New Brunswick, and on my

7、 last day there, a girl came up to me and she said, I remember the first time that I met you. And then she told me a story that had happened four years earlier. She said, On the day before I started university, I was in the hotel room with my mom and my dad, and I was so scared and so convinced that

8、 I couldnt do this, that I wasnt ready for university, that I just burst into tears. And my mom and my dad were amazing. They were like, Look, we know youre scared, but lets just go tomorrow. Lets go to the first day, and if at any point you feel as if you cant do this, thats fine, just tell us, we

9、will take you home. We love you no matter what.我在新布倫瑞克省薩克維爾的一所名為蒙特愛立森大學的小學校上學，我在學校的最后一天遇到(y do)一個女孩，她說，“我記得我們第一次見面(jin min)時候的事情?！比缓?rnhu)她向我講述了一個四年前發(fā)生的事情。她說，“大學報到的前一天，我和父母一起呆在酒店房間里，我非常害怕，堅信自己沒有準備好上大學，難過地掉眼淚。我的父母非常棒。他們說，我們知道你很害怕，我們明天先去一天。第一天我們先去看看情況，如果你覺得還沒有準備好，沒關系，隨時告訴我們，我們立刻帶你回家。無論發(fā)生什么我們都愛你?！盇nd s

10、he says, So I went the next day and I was standing in line getting ready for registration, and I looked around and I just knew I couldnt do it. I knew I wasnt ready. I knew I had to quit. And she says, I made that decision, and as soon as I made it, there was this incredible feeling of peace that ca

11、me over me. And I turned to my mom and my dad to tell them that we needed to go home, and just at that moment, you came out of the Student Union building wearing the stupidest hat I have ever seen in my life. (Laughter) It was awesome. And you had a big sign promoting Shinerama, which is Students Fi

12、ghting Cystic Fibrosis, a charity Ive worked with for years and you had a bucketful of lollipops. And you were walking along and you were handing the lollipops out to people in line and talking about Shinerama. And all of a sudden, you got to me, and you just stopped, and you stared. It was creepy.

13、(Laughter)然后她說，“所以第二天我去了學校排隊等待注冊的時候，我環(huán)顧四周，感覺自己沒有辦法在這里上學。我知道我還沒有準備好。我知道我必須退出?！彼又f，”我做出了決定，立刻感到了超乎想象的平和。我轉身告訴我的父母我們需要回家，就在那個時刻，你從學生會的樓房中走出來，戴著我這輩子見過的最愚蠢的帽子?！?笑聲)“那是個很棒的帽子。你還拿著一個宣傳Shinerama(加拿大慈善組織)的大標牌，上面寫著學生與囊胞性纖維癥斗爭，“這個慈善組織的活動我參與了很多年”你拿著一桶棒棒糖。你從我們身邊走過，在向排隊的人分發(fā)棒棒糖，介紹Shinerama。突然，你發(fā)現(xiàn)了我，停下來盯著我看。有點嚇人?！?/p>

14、(笑聲)This girl right here knows exactly what Im talking about. (Laughter) And then you looked at the guy next to me, and you smiled, and you reached in your bucket, and you pulled out a lollipop, and you held it out to him, and you said, You need to give a lollipop to the beautiful woman standing nex

15、t to you. And she said, I have never seen anyone get more embarrassed faster in my life. He turned beet red, and he wouldnt even look at me. He just kind of held the lollipop out like this. (Laughter) And I felt so bad for this dude that I took the lollipop, and as soon as I did, you got this incred

16、ibly severe look on your face and you looked at my mom and my dad, and you said, Look at that. Look at that. First day away from home, and already shes taking candy from a stranger?! (Laughter)那位姑娘完全(wnqun)了解我在說什么。(笑聲)“你看了看我旁邊(pngbin)的一個男生，微笑了一下從桶里拿出了一個棒棒糖遞給他，對他說，你一定(ydng)要把這個棒棒糖送給你旁邊這位美麗的女孩?！?她接著說：

17、“我從來沒有見過有人在如此短的時間之內變得如此尷尬。他的臉紅的像豬肝一樣，不愿正眼看我。他是這樣把棒棒糖遞給我的。”(笑聲)“我特別同情這個男生，所以接過了棒棒糖，結果棒棒糖剛到手，你就擺出一副特別嚴肅的表情，你看了看我父母，然后說，看啊?？窗?。剛離開家一天，就接受陌生人送的糖果?!”(笑聲)And she said, Everybody lost it. Twenty feet in every direction, everyone started to howl. And I know this is cheesy, and I dont know why Im telling you

18、this, but in that moment when everyone was laughing, I knew that I shouldnt quit. I knew that I was where I was supposed to be, and I knew that I was home, and I havent spoken to you once in the four years since that day, but I heard that you were leaving, and I had to come up and tell you that youv

19、e been an incredibly important person in my life, and Im going to miss you. Good luck.她接著說，“所有人都被逗樂了。方圓二十英尺之內所有人都開始爆笑。我知道這很俗氣，我不知道我為什么在和你說這些。但是在那個大家都在大笑的時刻，我意識到我不應該離開，我知道我屬于這個地方，我知道這里是我的家。那天之后，四年我沒有和你說過一句話，但是我聽說你要離開了，我必須告訴你，在我生活中你擁有無與倫比的重要地位，我會想念你的。祝你好運?！盇nd she walks away, and Im flattened. And she

20、 gets about six feet away, she turns around and smiles, and goes, You should probably know this, too. Im still dating that guy four years later. (Laughter)然后她就走開了，我受寵若驚。走了六英尺，她轉身微笑，說道：“也許應該跟你說一下，四年過去了，我還在和當年那個男生約會。”(笑聲)A year and a half after I moved to Toronto, I got an invitation to their wedding.

21、搬到多倫多一年半之后，我收到了他們婚禮的請柬。Heres the kicker. I dont remember that. I have no recollection of that moment, and Ive searched my memory banks, because that is funny and I should remember doing it, and I dont remember it. And that was such an eye-opening, transformative moment for me to think that maybe the

22、 biggest impact Id ever had on anyones life, a moment that had a woman walk up to a stranger four years later and say, Youve been an incredibly important person in my life, was a moment that I didnt even remember.意外的是，我不記得這件事。我對那個時刻完全沒有印象。我搜索了我的記憶倉庫，這是件有趣的事情，我應該有印象的，但是我完全不記得。這段經(jīng)歷(jngl)讓我大開眼界，改變了我的想法

23、我開始思考，也許我對他人生活所能帶來的最大影響，來自不經(jīng)意間的舉動，就是這樣一個我沒有印象的時刻讓一個女孩時隔四年還特地找到我，告訴我：我在她生命中擁有無與倫比的重要性。How many of you guys have a lollipop moment, a moment where someone said something or did something that you feel fundamentally made your life better? All right. How many of you have told that person they did it? Se

24、e, why not? We celebrate birthdays, where all you have to do is not die for 365 days (Laughter) and yet we let people who have made our lives better walk around without knowing it. And every single one of you, every single one of you has been the catalyst for a lollipop moment. You have made someone

25、s life better by something that you said or that you did, and if you think you havent, think about all the hands that didnt go back up when I asked that question. Youre just one of the people who hasnt been told.今天在座(zizu)的所有人中有多少人經(jīng)歷過這種棒棒糖時刻，感覺生活因為他人的言語或者行動顯著得到改善的時刻?好的。你們中又有多少人把這種感受告訴了帶來改變的人呢?你看，為什么

26、不呢?我們慶祝生日，盡管你所做的不過是在三百六十五天內保持活著而已(笑聲)然而我們卻不與那些改變我們生活的人分享他們起到的重要作用。每一個人，我們中的每一個人都是棒棒糖時刻的催化劑。你的言語或行動讓他人的生活更加美好如果你覺得自己并沒有帶來什么改變，想想我問那個問題時那些沒有舉起的手。這不過是因為你幫助過的人沒有告訴你罷了。But it is so scary to think of ourselves as that powerful. It can be frightening to think that we can matter that much to other people, b

27、ecause as long as we make leadership something bigger than us, as long as we keep leadership something beyond us, as long as we make it about changing the world, we give ourselves an excuse not to expect it every day from ourselves and from each other.但是把自己想的如此強大是一件令人害怕的事情(sh qing)。想到自己可以對他人產(chǎn)生如此巨大的影

28、響我們會感到有些害怕，因為只要我們認為領導力高于生活、常人難以企及、只要我們認為改變世界的人才能被稱為領導我們就是在找借口，不去期待自己或者他人擁有領導才能。Marianne Williamson said, Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our greatest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, and not our darkness, that frightens us. And my call to action today is

29、 that we need to get over that. We need to get over our fear of how extraordinarily powerful we can be in each others lives. We need to get over it so we can move beyond it, and our little brothers and our little sisters, and one day our kids - or our kids right now - can watch and start to value th

30、e impact we can have on each others lives more than money and power and titles and influence.瑪麗安娜威廉姆森說過，“我們最害怕的不是(b shi)能力不夠。最令我們的恐懼的是我們所擁有的巨大力量。我們對自己的光明面，而非黑暗面，感到恐懼?！苯裉煳姨栒俅蠹铱朔@一點。我們需要接受自己可能在他人的生活中扮演無比重要的角色的事實，克服由此產(chǎn)生的恐懼?？朔謶种笪覀兙涂梢赃~出前進(qinjn)的步伐，我們的弟弟妹妹，未來我們的孩子或者說現(xiàn)在我們(w men)的孩子可以通過觀察，學會重視我們對彼此生活的影響認識到這種影響超越金錢、權利、頭銜和權勢。We need to redefine leadership as being about lollipop moments, how many of them we create, how many of them we acknowledge, how many of them we pay forward, and how many of them we say thank you for. Because weve made leader