1、TED英語演講 學(xué)會擁抱別人 你會擁抱別人嗎?擁抱別人就是擁抱自己，就是給自己溫暖。Newton女士講述了作為一個演員演繹很多永遠不同自我的角色的經(jīng)歷，這些經(jīng)歷讓她變得溫暖而有智慧。下面是為大家收集關(guān)于TED英語演講：學(xué)會擁抱別人，歡迎借鑒參考。 演講者：Than _ Newton Embracing otherness. When I first heard this theme, I thought, well, embracing otherness is embracing myself. And the journey to that pla _ of understanding a

2、nd aeptan _ has been an interesting one for me, and its given me an insight into the whole notion of self, which I think is worth sharing with you today. 擁抱他人，當(dāng)我第一次聽到這個主題時我覺得擁抱他人，就是擁抱我自己。對于我來說通往理解和接納的路是十分有意思的，并且讓我對“自我”這一概念有了深刻的理解 。我想這值得在今天和你們 _。 We each have a self, but I dont think that were born w

3、ith one. You know how newborn babies believe theyre part of everything; theyre not separate? Well that fundamental sense of oneness is lost on us very quickly. Its like that initial stage is over - oneness: infancy, unformed, primitive. Its no longer valid or real. What is real is separateness, and

4、at some point in early babyhood, the idea of self starts to form. 我們都有一個自我但我并不認(rèn)為這是與生俱來的。你看那些剛出生的小嬰兒，他們認(rèn)為自己屬于任何事物，他們并不是脫離的。這種最基本的同一性，會很快從我們身上消失，如同最初始的狀態(tài)已經(jīng)結(jié)束。同一性：嬰兒期 未成形的、原始的將不復(fù)存在 ，取而代之的是分離。在嬰兒期的某一點，關(guān)于自我的意識開始萌芽。 Our little portion of oneness is given a name, is told all kinds of things about itself, a

5、nd these details, opinions and ideas bee facts, which go towards building ourselves, our identity. And that self bees the vehicle for navigating our social world. But the self is a projection based on other peoples projections. Is it who we really are? Or who we really want to be, or should be? 我們同一

6、性的一小部分被賦予了一個名字 被告知關(guān)于它自己的任何事情 這些細(xì)節(jié)，觀點和想法變成事實，這些都幫我們形成自我以及自己的身份。然后這個自我就成為一個工具，用來探索周圍的這個世界，但是這個自我實際上是一個投影。以其他人的投影為基礎(chǔ) 這就是真正的我們嗎?是我們真正想成為，或者應(yīng)該成為的人嗎? So this whole interaction with self and identity was a very difficult one for me growing up. The self that I attempted to take out into the world was reject

7、ed over and over again. And my panic at not having a self that fit, and the confusion that came from my self being rejected, created anxiety, shame and hopelessness, which kind of defined me for a long time. 在我成長過程中我一直都很難處理自我與身份之間的相互影響，那個我嘗試著向周圍的世界展示的自我，被一次又一次拒絕，因為沒有一個合適的自我而帶來的恐慌，以及因為被拒絕而產(chǎn)生的惶恐，引起了我的

8、焦慮、羞愧還有無望。這些在很長一段時間里都限制了我。 But in retrospect, the destruction of my self was so repetitive that I started to see a pattern. The self changed, got affected, broken, destroyed, but another one would evolve - sometimes stronger, sometimes hateful, sometimes not wanting to be there at all. The self was

9、not constant. And how _ny times would my self have to _ before I realized that it was never alive in the first pla _? 但當(dāng)我回想過去對于自我的毀滅反復(fù)出現(xiàn)，我開始看出一些規(guī)律，一個自我被改變被影響、被打擊破壞，但有一個新的會形成。有時更強、有時充滿仇恨 、有時則根本不想出現(xiàn)，這個自我并不是恒定的。在我還沒有意識到這個自我曾經(jīng)從未存在時，我的“自我” 會死多少次呢? I grew up on the coast of England in the 70s. My dad is w

10、hite from Cornwall, and my mom is black from Zimbabwe. Even the idea of us as a family was challenging to most people. But nature had its wicked way, and brown babies were born. But from about the age of five, I was aware that I didnt fit. I was the black atheist kid in the all-white Catholic school

11、 run by nuns. 我于上世紀(jì)七十年代生長在英格蘭的海岸邊，我父親是康沃爾的白人，我母親是津巴布韋的黑人。對于許多人來說是無論如何也想不到我們是一家人，但大自然自有意想不到的一面，棕色的孩子出生了。但自從五歲開始我就察覺出我的格格不入。我是一個信奉無神論的黑人孩子，在一個由修女運轉(zhuǎn)的白人天主學(xué)校我是一個另類。 I was an ano _ly, and my self was rooting around for definition and trying to plug in. Because the self likes to fit, to see itself replicat

12、ed, to belong. That confirms its existen _ and its importan _. And it is important. It has an extremely important function. Without it, we literally cant inte _ _ with others. We cant hatch plans and climb that stairway of popularity, of suess. 我的自我在不斷尋找一個定義并試圖將自己套入定義，因為自我都是愿意去融入 。看到自己被 _，有歸屬感那能確認(rèn)自我

13、的存在感和重要性，這很重要。這有一個極端重要的功能，沒有一個對自我的定義，我們簡直不能和其他人交流。我們無法制定計劃、無法爬上潮流和成功的階梯。 But my skin color wasnt right. My hair wasnt right. My history wasnt right. My self became defined by otherness, which meant that, in that social world, I didnt really exist. And I was other before being anything else - even be

14、fore being a girl. I was a noti _able nobody. 但我的膚色不對、我的發(fā)色不對、我的來歷不對， 我的自我被他人定義。這意味著在社會上我并不存在，我首先被定義為一個另類，甚至先于被定義為一個女孩。我是一個引人注意的沒有人。 Another world was opening up around this time: perfor _n _ and dancing. That nagging dread of self-hood didnt exist when I was dancing. Id literally lose myself. And I

15、was a really good dan _r. I would put all my emotional expression into my dancing. I could be in the movement in a way that I wasnt able to be in my real life, in myself. 在這個時候另一個世界出現(xiàn)了，那就是表演和舞蹈。對于自我糾纏不清的恐懼在我跳舞時并不存在，我像是失去了自己。我是一個好的舞蹈演員，我會把我所有的感情 投入到舞蹈中去。在舞蹈中我能完成我在現(xiàn)實中自己無法做到的動作。 And at 16, I stumbled a

16、cross another opportunity, and I earned my first acting role in a film. I can hardly find the words to describe the pea _ I felt when I was acting. My dysfunctional self could actually plug in to another self, not my own, and it felt so good. It was the first time that I existed inside a fully-funct

17、ioning self - one that I controlled, that I steered, that I gave life to. But the shooting day would end, and Id return to my gnarly, awkward self. 當(dāng)我16歲時我無意中遇到另一個機遇，得到了我的第一個電影角色。我難以找到言語 來形容在表演中我 _到的平靜，我那殘缺的自我終于融入了不是我自己的另一個自我，這種感覺真好。那是我第一次存在于一個正常運作的自我、一個我可以控制的、可以操縱的、可以賦予生命的自我。但是拍攝的日子終會結(jié)束，我也會回到我那扭曲 _

18、自我。 By 19, I was a fully-fledged movie actor, but still searching for definition. I applied to read anthropology at university. Dr. Phyllis Lee gave me my interview, and she asked me, How would you define ra _? Well, I thought I had the answer to that one, and I said, Skin color. So biology, geics?

19、she said. Because, Than _, thats not aurate. Because theres actually more geic differen _ between a black Kenyan and a black Ugandan than there is between a black Kenyan and, say, a white Norwegian. 當(dāng)我19歲時，我已經(jīng)是一個羽翼豐滿的電影演員，但卻仍在尋找定義。我在大學(xué)里申請攻讀人類學(xué)Phyllis Lee _對我進行了面試，她問我：“你怎樣定義種族?” 嗯，我覺得我有答案，然后我說：“膚色?！?

20、她繼續(xù)問道：“也就是生物學(xué)基因上的差異?” “因為，桑迪，膚色并不準(zhǔn)確。在一個黑皮膚的肯尼亞人和一個黑皮膚的烏干達人之間存在的基因差異，實際上超過在一個黑皮膚的肯尼亞人和一個比如說，白皮膚的挪威人之間的差異。 Because we all stem from Africa. So in Africa, theres been more time to create geic diversity. In other words, ra _ has no basis in biological or scientific fact. On the one hand, result. Right?

21、On the other hand, my definition of self just lost a huge chunk of its credibility. But what was credible, what is biological and scientific fact, is that we all stem from Africa - in fact, from a wo _n called Mitochondrial Eve who lived 160,000 years ago. And ra _ is an illegiti _te con _pt which o

22、ur selves have created based on fear and ignoran _. 因為我們都起源于非洲，所以在非洲更有可能產(chǎn)生基因多樣性?！?換句話說種族這一說法，并沒有生物學(xué)或科學(xué)基礎(chǔ)一方面，這是結(jié)果對嗎? 另一方面，我對自我的定義則失去了相當(dāng)大一部分的可信度，可以相信的以及生物學(xué)和科學(xué)事實，就是我們都起源于非洲。實際上，起源于一個叫做線粒體夏娃的女人，她生活在十六萬年前，種族是一個不合法的概念，是我們自己創(chuàng)造出來的基于恐懼和無知。 Strangely, these revelations didnt cure my low self-esteem, that feel

23、ing of otherness. My desire to disappear was still very powerful. I had a degree from Cambridge; I had a thriving career, but my self was a car crash, and I wound up with bulimia and on a therapists couch. And of course I did. I still believed my self was all I was. I still valued self-worth above a

24、ll other worth, and what was there to suggest otherwise? 奇怪的是，這些啟示并沒有治愈我那缺少的自尊，那種被劃為另類的感覺。我渴望消失的想法依舊十分強烈。我有一個劍橋的學(xué)位，我的事業(yè)蒸蒸日上。但我的自我卻如同一場車禍，最終我患上貪食癥并接受治療，我當(dāng)然會這樣，我依舊相信我的自我就是我的全部，我依舊認(rèn)為自我價值高于其余任何價值。不然還能怎樣呢? Weve created entire value systems and a physical reality to support the worth of self. Look at the

25、industry for self-i _ge and the jobs it creates, the revenue it turns over. Wed be right in assuming that the self is an actual living thing. But its not. Its a projection which our clever brains create in order to cheat ourselves from the reality of death. 我們創(chuàng)造了整個價值系統(tǒng)以及一個客觀的現(xiàn)實，用以支持自我的價值，看看由個人形象帶動的產(chǎn)

26、業(yè)，還有它提供的工 以及它創(chuàng)造的價值。我們可能會假設(shè)這個自我是真實存在的，但我們錯了。這只是一個投影，是由我們聰明的大腦創(chuàng)造出來的，來欺騙我們自己無需面對死亡的現(xiàn)實。 But there is something that can give the self ulti _te and infinite connection - and that thing is oneness, our essen _. The selfs struggle for authenticity and definition will never end unless its connected to its c

27、reator - to you and to me. And that can happen with awareness - awareness of the reality of oneness and the projection of self-hood. 但總有一些事能賦予自我極無盡的 _ ，就是同一性我們的本源自我對于真實性和定義的掙扎永遠不會停止，除非自我能夠與創(chuàng)造者相連。與你，與我這和意識的覺醒一同存在意識到同一性的現(xiàn)實以及自我的投影。 For a start, we can think about all the times when we do lose ourselves

28、. It happens when I dan _, when Im acting. Im earthed in my essen _, and my self is suspended. In those moments, Im connected to everything - the ground, the air, the sounds, the energy from the au _n _. All my senses are alert and alive in much the same way as an infant might feel - that feeling of

29、 oneness. 一開始，我們可以想想那些我們失去自我的時候，當(dāng)我跳舞時、表演時，我根植于我的本源，我的自我被抑制了在那些時刻。我與萬物相連，大地、空氣、聲音、觀眾的能量，我的所有感官都是警覺和鮮活的如同一個嬰兒 _到的一般，那種同一性的感覺。 And when Im acting a role, I inhabit another self, and I give it life for awhile, because when the self is suspended so is divisiveness and judgment. And Ive played everything

30、from a vengeful ghost in the time of slavery to Secretary of State in 20xx. And no _tter how other these selves might be, theyre all related in me. And I honestly believe the key to my suess as an actor and my progress as a person has been the very lack of self that used to _ke me feel so anxious an

31、d insecure. 當(dāng)我表演一個角色時我進入了另一個自我。我在一段時間內(nèi)賦予其生命當(dāng)自我被抑制時它的多樣性和判斷也會一同被抑制。我出演過許多角色，從奴隸時代想要復(fù)仇的鬼魂，到20xx年的國務(wù)卿。無論這些角色是多么的不同，他們?nèi)寂c我相連。我誠懇地認(rèn)為我作為一個演員能夠成功的關(guān)鍵以及作為一個不斷進步的人，是因為自我的缺失，這讓我覺得非常焦慮和不安。 I always wondered why I could feel others pain so deeply, why I could recognize the somebody in the nobody. Its because I d

32、idnt have a self to get in the way. I thought I lacked substan _, and the fact that I could feel others meant that I had nothing of myself to feel. The thing that was a sour _ of shame was actually a sour _ of enlighte _ent. 我總是在想 _我能如此深切地 _到他人的痛苦， _我能辨認(rèn)出一個被忽視的人，那是因為 _一個自我擋在中間，我想我缺少一種介質(zhì)我能夠 _他人這個事實。說

33、明我 _不到我自己這曾經(jīng)導(dǎo)致了我的羞愧，其實是給我啟蒙的源頭。 And when I realized and really understood that my self is a projection and that it has a function, a funny thing happened. I stopped giving it so much authority. I give it its due. I take it to therapy. Ive bee very familiar with its dysfunctional behavior. But Im not

34、 ashamed of my self. In fact, I respect my self and its function. And over time and with practi _, Ive tried to live more and more from my essen _. And if you can do that, incredible things happen. 當(dāng)我意識到并真正明白自我是一個投影，并有它自己的功能時，一件有意思的事發(fā)生了，我不再給我的自我過多的權(quán)利，我給它應(yīng)得的回報，我?guī)ブ委?，我已?jīng)非常熟悉自我的不正常運作了。但我并不為我的自我感到羞愧。事實

35、上，我尊重我的自我 和它的功能，經(jīng)過時間和練習(xí)，我不斷嘗試過一種順從我的本源的生活。如果你能做到這一點，將會發(fā)生 _的事情。 I was in Congo in February, dancing and _lebrating with women whove survived the destruction of their selves in literally unthinkable ways - destroyed because other brutalized, psychopathic selves all over that beautiful land are fueling

36、 our selves addiction to iPods, Pads, and bling, which further disconnect ourselves from ever feeling their pain, their suffering, their death. 二月份的時候我在剛果與那些自我曾遭受難以想象的毀滅的女人們一起跳舞慶祝，因為在那片美麗的土地上那些被殘酷對待的心理變態(tài)的自我，正不斷滿足我們對于 iPod以及iPad等光鮮事物的癮。這些更進一步阻礙我們?nèi)?_她們的痛苦、她們的遭遇、她們的死亡。 Because, hey, if were all living

37、in ourselves and mistaking it for life, then were devaluing and desensitizing life. And in that disconnected state, yeah, we can build factory farms with no windows, destroy _rine life and use rape as a weapon of war. So heres a note to self: The cracks have started to show in our constructed world,

38、 and o _ans will continue to surge through the cracks, and oil and blood, rivers of it. 因為當(dāng)我們都活在自己的世界里，并以為這就是生活。那我們就是在貶低生活的價值，并且變得越來越遲鈍。在那樣一個被隔斷的狀態(tài)里我們可以建造沒有窗戶的工廠、破壞海洋生命、把xx視為戰(zhàn)爭的一種武器。這有一個對自我的建議在我們這個被構(gòu)造的世界里已經(jīng)開始出現(xiàn)裂縫，海水將持續(xù)不斷從裂縫中涌出石油和鮮血，匯流成河。 Crucially, we havent been figuring out how to live in oneness

39、with the Earth and every other living thing. Weve just been insanely trying to figure out how to live with each other - billions of each other. Only were not living with each other; our crazy selves are living with each other and perpetuating an epidemic of disconnection. 關(guān)鍵在于我們尚未找出、怎樣與地球和萬物一起生活在同一性中我們一直在瘋狂地尋找，怎樣和數(shù)十億的其他人一起生活，只是我們并非和其他人一起生活。我們瘋狂的自我們在一起生活、與他人的隔斷，也如同傳染病一般蔓延。 Lets live with each other and take it a breath at a time. If we can get under that heavy self, light a torch of awareness, and find